It seems like some people are just born confident; they move in and out of stressful situations, such as getting a new job, with relative ease. Sometimes that leaves the rest of us feeling as though we are lacking. But, just because not everyone is gifted with that level of confidence, that doesn’t mean it isn’t attainable.
For those of us not blessed with naturally high self confidence, it is important to realize you can learn that trait. Gaining confidence can be treated just like developing any other skills; with time, attention, and effort you can make improvements. So, if you think more confidence is just the thing you need to make landing a new job a reality, here are some tips to get you on your way.
Accept Yourself as You Are
A key to feeling confident is simply accepting who you are as a person, flaws and all. No one has a led a perfect life, but trying to hide facets of yourself from those around you can actually reinforce insecurities even if no one else knows they are there.
Instead, understand your journey through life has brought you to where you are today. And that makes every step along the way valuable. Consider how each mistake gave you a chance to learn, and how they have made you a stronger, more well-rounded individual. Then, embrace each idiosyncrasy for what it is; something that makes you special.
You can’t practice confidence if you never break from your routine. Often, to find opportunities to be confident you need to push yourself into something that scares you a bit. Understanding you can face a challenge and make it to the other side can be a key to a more confident you, so find ways to integrate more of those opportunities into your life.
Give new activities a try, even if it is only once, and don’t shy away from a challenge. As you become more aware of your true capabilities, you may find your confidence building naturally.
Be (Tactfully) Honest
Sometimes the easiest way to get past an insecurity is to acknowledge it is there. Giving yourself a chance to give that feeling its due opens the door to move beyond it. So, don’t try to push an insecurity down deeper into yourself. Instead, allow it to have a moment in the spotlight and then let it go.
It is important that this technique requires some tact. For example, you don’t necessarily want to announce your nervousness to a hiring manager during an interview as this may not reflect well on you after the fact. But, you can air out your concern when you are sitting in your car before you go in.
So, the next time you feel nerves building up before a big interview, consider giving a friend, family member, or even the recruiter who helped you get the interview a quick call. In fact, you might even want to set up a quick dialogue before your interview date. You can let them know how you are feeling and they can help you remind yourself about all of the reasons you have to be confident. Then, you can go into the interview with your head held high.